I'm an aunty again

*love*

Hot .

Yup, it is.

I've been sitting in the park watching my littlest girlie learn to ride her bike.
She's just gone up to a bigger size and seh was a bit wobbly to begin with, but she's doing fine, so once she's got over her crashing stage we'll get her a new one, but for now she's happily on her big sisters old one.

It was fun just sitting on a blanket watching families walk/ride/skate past for once smiling and passing pleasant comments on what's going on around them.

We ought to do it more often.

It didn't do much for my peace of mind to read this article though....http://news.independent.co.uk/environment/article1191932.ece

Blair and Bush. When will they learn to check that the microphone is off BEFORE they talk.

This would be funny if it wasn't so serious

sigh.

And where the hell did Tony Blair get such a long tie from?

Hen Nights.

What the hell has happened to Hen nights since I got married?????

Ok, so its a while ago.
1981 to be exact.
But i DID have one.
And it DID involve clubbing and having fun.

But when did all this

and this


happen?

I'm going to one on saturday and have been given instructions from the brides sister to ' bring something small stupid and embarrassing' to pin to the bride to be so that she'll feel, well, small, stupid and embarrassed aparently.
:S

I get the dressing up thing.
But making her feel stupid and embarrased?
What are they?
Friends or enemies?

Maybe its a generation thing.
I was also going to go on later with the rest of the [younger]girls to a club which according to the same sister was a 70's themed one where in order to get in you had to go in costume.
I thought ..fine..i can do that, i mean the 70's covers everything from mini /midi/maxi skirts to punk.
And then i thought about it somemore, did a little investigating and discovered that the place they were talking about was here http://www.carwash.co.uk/
And the dress code is this


Not exactly what I was expecting.
:D

Now i can do fetish ok..i mean give me a corset and some big heels and you're nearly there, but I'm not stupid, and thats exactly how I'd look if i tried to match those ensembles.

So i'm begging off after the meal and trotting off to do things that atually make me feel good and not stupid.

Thinking while watching CSI

It's amazing what goes through your mind while you watch TV.
Human nature is a strange and sad thing.

I often have difficulty telling people things that I think or know that they won't like, and i feel that I'm less of a person for not biting the bullet and actually speaking out.

A couple of things have happened recently that have made me think more about this.
Some have affected friends of mine, some family, and some people that i know but who I'm not close to.
And the thing that has connected all of them is the fact that in each case a person has acted in such a way as to try and make other people put pressure on someone else in order to make their lives easier or to make themselves feel less culpable for whatever has happened.

And its something that I don't understand.

I don't understand when people use their children as pawns to get back at their ex spouse/partner.
Even when things were at their worst with my ex husband i would never have dreamed of slagging him off to my daughter or stopping him seeing her.
Whatever had happened between us didn't change the fact that she was his daughter and that they love each other.
As she's got older i have explained more about why we didn't stay married, but I've always tried to be fair and balanced.
And as she's grown up its helped her to accept her father for a whole person, and to understand some things that happened around her when she was with her father and his family .

I don't understand it when someone thinks that their ex partner owes them anything when a relationship breaks up.
No matter how horrible a break up is, there must have been something that held them together, and hopefully that includes a sense of respect for each other, so if something ends it ends.
There's nothing that can change that.

I don't understand it when someone uses their standing within a group to try and exclude a newer member of that group for personal reasons.
It leaves a nasty taste in my mouth .
If a group is public then its public, and it means that there may be members who don't get on in it.
Hopefully if they are adults they can agree to dissagree.
So i don't understand why someone would actively ask other members of that group to get them banned.

And mostly i don't understand why i didn't say anything.